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Woman Shuts Down Tinder Date’s Racist ‘Skin-Bleaching’ Suggestion

When Takara Allen’s Tinder match suggested she’d be much more attractive if she just bleached her skin, she was understandably furious

So the 22-year-old black woman from Adelaide, Australia, told the man exactly how she felt:

“Don’t think I’m a creep and I don’t wanna be offensive or anything but I was just looking [at] your insta photos and just curious, but have you ever thought about bleaching your skin??” the unidentified man wrote in a message to her last week. “You’d look so much prettier if you were whiter!”

Allen replied by asking if he’d “ever considered drinking bleach because the world would be so much prettier if you did.” She then blocked the guy from all of her social media accounts before taking to Facebook (see above) to completely shut down his suggestion.

“What goes on in people’s heads that makes them think this is okay to say to someone?” she asked. “As if people of color don’t already struggle enough with the pressure to conform to Eurocentric beauty ideals and standards, people like this add even more.”

“If you have to say ‘not trying to be offensive/racist/mean’ before you say something, DON’T SAY IT,” she added. 

Allen’s post soon went viral, with the vast majority of commenters supporting her stance.

Allen later revealed in a separate Facebook post that she’d received several messages from men who tried “to mansplain to me how I’m too outspoken and how I should ‘tone it down.'” Some even labelled her “an attention seeker for speaking about issues that affect me as a black female and more specifically just as a female in general,” she added.

Over the weekend, Allen refuted those claims by posting this picture of her 7-year-old self to Instagram:

MOOD. Little 7 year old me. Shocker, I am actually black. Light skinned yes, but black. Who knew??!! For the idiots taking it upon themselves to decide that the text message I received was faked for followers, I speak about racism in society every day so why does this particular time make me an attention seeker? (I'm looking at you, BroBible) And why lie about skin bleaching of all things??? I spoke up about it because I was devastated at being told something THAT HAPPENS TO OTHERS EVERY SINGLE DAY and felt it could bring attention to what other people of colour go through every day. Yes, skin bleaching is a REAL thing. People do get messages and are told things like what was said to me in REAL life. There are ads in most countries for skin "brighten" "whitening" and "bleaching" and no, being told to get a tan is not the same as being told you would be more desirable if you bleach your skin because of a little thing called institutionalised and systematic racism. I shared my story with an amazing woman at @galdemzine to be a small part of shining a light on the leech of an industry that is skin bleaching. I didn't ask anyone to pick the story up or for it to go "viral" Send your death threats, your rape threats, and your racist and sexist messages but I'm just doing me. And I was speaking up about racism long before this issue. You only took it upon yourselves to care this one time which says more about you than it does about me. Please take a seat before you hurt yourselves

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I speak about racism in society every day so why does this particular time make me an attention seeker?” she asked. “And why lie about skin bleaching of all things??? I spoke up about it because I was devastated at being told something that happens to others every single day and felt it could bring attention to what other people of color go through every day.”

Skin bleaching, which is essentially the chemical lightening of the skin, occurs globally, according to the World Health Organization. And many bleaching products contain mercury, which can result in kidney damage, skin rashes, discoloration, scarring, anxiety and depression.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2016/04/25/tinder-skin-bleaching-suggestion_n_9769916.html